Then………Now………………Forever…………………

There are times I still think about you. Days go by when I wonder what life would be like had we walked a different road, had I not been so hasty, had you not gone with that friend, had I not gone with your friend. I wish at times we could have sorted things out like adults and not be at war with each other. It's such a shame we couldn't see past each other's flaws and helped build each other to become better people, maybe all now we would have been living our dreams and not nightmares. I see you on the move looking stressed and dejected, the world certainly has taken its toll on your youth making you seem older than you really are or is it that I haven't grown up like you have and still linger behind in maturity, or is it that now I see your true colours. Is it that I see the deceit and torment you are enduring because of his torturous ways? Is it that now you see the monster you created and the evil you willingly unleashed that has you bearing the world of guilt that has you trapped in a fast aging life of grief? Either which way I see the truth, I see the struggle to get free of hell, I see the need to dodge falling brimstone, I see the desire to escape the fire!

If I were you I would look stressed too, I would feel the weight of a solar system crushing my shoulders, I would feel the stress of an army hunting me like a dog. But no I don't feel this way and this is why you can't look at me, when you see me you see joy, you see strength, you dirty my name because you can't are your way even with him. How sad that after all the effort to discredit me I'm still going even further than you could have imagined! You tried your best to set me back but all you did was put me on a slingshot to freedom, freedom from your prison, freedom from your suffering, freedom from your eternal misery and disgust. So even though we could have been good, as of now I'm even better!!

Jack the Whipper

So long we have been told slavery is abolished, apartheid terminated, segregation extinct and fossilized. There's nothing further from the truth though, daily the demands of the working world have been increasing with even routine office jobs now being made to work excess hours with heavier commitments and threats of termination if such demands are not agreed to, it reminds me of Jack the Whipper in the story of Roots where he ordered a slave to confess his new name as Toby and forsake his given name of Kunta Kente.

In these modern times where everything seems so equal and balanced, there are glass ceilings we have been hitting via the subliminal insertion of societal segregation disguised as class definition. In the old days of apartheid, it was illegal for blacks and whites to use the same bathroom or ride on the same end of the bus, well after the great Madiba (Nelson Mandela for those of you not up to speed on history), you now have certain positions and tools being made unavailable to people of a particular skin type or gender. Don't believe me, consider this, Oprah Winfrey has been a longtime household name for her acclaimed and legendary television series. She has performed many great feats of charity and has been a longtime member of the Fortune 500 club. You would think with all of that backing her when she launched her own cable network she would receive the same backing and endorsement she has given to so many in her days belonging to a network. Well surprise surprise the only people who really supported her were the Discovery Channel and Tyler Perry. With Sean Combs later joining in its amazing how many people do not actually want Oprah to succeed. She herself has been publicly critical of the support not given to her even by the very businesses she once rubbed elbows with when they were using her name to get their products into our homes. Back track a decade to the then upstart UPN who didn't even  own a proper television series but somehow got multiple endorsements from around the world and we begin to see where the new borders of inequity exist.

Classification of people based on their perceived financial capabilities is the most degrading form of societal separation ever. It has gotten so bad it even trickles down into children as daily more and more cases of peer abuse due to some children being better off than others. Exactly how is this different fro. The days of blacks riding in the back of the bus?? The rise of technology has given us a very public and graphic look at the effects of such disparity. It has gotten worst to now that wealth is being attained by a wider variety of people, now you have higher and lower classesof wealth, with only the selected higher class being afforded mass support for their continued success whilst the rest continue to slave at the plantation of Jack the Whipper trying their best to buy back their forty acres and own a plantation.


Better than that society
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Return of the Word

It's been a while since I've been here, the advent of new technology though allows for plenty. As I'm on the topic of plenty, I very often wonder what the world would be like without it.

Today's world is literally revolves around anything that consumes some sort of electricity. Whether it be cell phones, tablets, appliances, cars, whatever have you it most likely demands some form of electricity. With such demands for a limited supply of power one has to wonder what would really happen should the world shut down one day.what would happen if we were forced to communicate with each other via face to face conversations for extended hours of the day. Think you can do it? Do you really think you can unplug for even a day? OK consider this, in 1993 to operate a desktop computer required specialized training from a certified tech master with at least advanced hardware and software knowledge especially of the DOS operating software or Linux for you longtime nerds. These days even macbook first timers can just walk in a store purchase one and use it immediately with barely a crash course from the neighbour. These conveniences have made the world so small that going from the Caribbean to Australia is but a click of a screen. Imagine unplugging yourself from the ability to instant message or even use basic text messaging, then add no more social media, email, or mobile phone calls. Believe it or not such times existed, I remember less than ten years ago touch screen cell phones were the wave of some far away universe in science fiction imagination.

The downside of such convenience though is that it leads us to dangerous temptations. The human penchant to push the limits of life has seen a remarkable increase of the levels of abuse attained within such a short space of time. In less than a decade of development mankind has become much more promiscuous  with a sharp rise in infidelity on the part of both genders. Men and women can now easily discard of evidence of indiscretions with the touch of a button. Children now teach their parents how to operate devices intended for adults and then turn and abuse the use of these devices ending up many times on the wrong side of the law.

The new saying is that smarter devices make dumber people and it is very true. We rely more on the device and less on our abilities makimg the devices a measure of our intellect and accuracy instead of the other way around. Consequently this limits the abilities of the average human returning us essentially to neanderthalesque days where man was incapable of not much more than reproduction and even then we are surpassed and measured by machines. Check yourself who really is master and operator.........................

Best Friend......................

It's not the same when we have to start and stop, you come so close and you go so far. I let you in and now you want out, it's the daily confusion of so called "best friends." Surely I've learnt my lesson from you, never again will I invest in someone who's determined to not go anywhere with me. You have the world of excuses why you won't try, so from here on out no more tears, only those who going the distance will I ever ever cry. You claim to be different but really you're just like the rest, raising my stress and deceiving this bleeding thing in my chest. Moving away from you was hard because I honestly believed you when you said we going to go far, now I see that you're happy being ill treated and used as a doormat.

I'm about up to the ceiling with all these lies, why would you lead me on and then say it was your alter ego? You knew what you did and you know why you stopped, I just wish you would stop lying and be out with the truth. I've been nothing but straightforward and genuine with you, but you've always held back and perhaps it's time I did too. You say you want things the way they used to be, but for that to happen you won't mean anything to me. I won't waste anymore of your time trying to be that kind of friend, what you really want is a toy that you can play with and cast aside whenever you feel like. It's not all bad because I've learnt a lot about myself from you, I've seen why people advantage me and what I need to do to stop that. I've also seen why full commitment is a waste of time, it makes no sense when everyone else is holding a piece of them away from you . Some day you're going to feel the pain I feel now, I won't be there to pull you out though, by that time I'll be over you and suffering a new slavery, but at least I'll be wise enough to know when to escape.

Let this be a lesson to all of my readers, it's no fun being in love when somebody pretends not to love you back. You can try how much you like with people, but birds of a feather really do flock together and they're heifers the same way............................................................

The Good One

You've heard about them, the Mr. Right, Mrs. Right, Prince Charming, etc. but do you know that these people actually exist and there are times we get them and discard them like yesterday's garbage? How many times have you had someone who was pushing to see you do better, took the time to attend to your every need, considered you above there own well being, and the list goes on and yet still all you could think of was how nagging this person was and when they would leave? What about the many times you had that one person who would wait on you hand and foot despite all that you have done to them and you reward them with arrogance and stress? The truth of the matter is that at some point in time we are all guilty of such actions and whether you accept it or not, it's your fault that you're unhappy! Most people will agree that men more than women are guilty of such behaviour with the majority of victims being women.

To the men of the world, it's no secret that we all have varying needs and wants from women and there are times we are guilty of being as indecisive about love as we accuse the women we meet of doing. A good woman is defined differently by each man so I can't say there's any one kind of good woman, however, at a point in time in life we do meet that woman who meets our criteria and then we mess up by cheating, abusing, ignoring, contradicting and destroying them. If that isn't bad enough, we do them worst by imposing our "macho" will on them and when they leave we're most upset and quickest to point the finger of blame at them. That very finger that we point has a thumb that's pointing right back at us and it's nothing further from the truth. Every man would like to have that perfect body woman who does everything that we would like them to do to and for us, but just like us women come in all shapes and sizes and should be appreciated as they are. There's no point in complaining of how ridiculously petty women are and how much they gossip because you know what, men gossip just as bad and sometimes worst. You really think those nights out with the boys talking about who does what and who's with who isn't gossiping? Get real and get a life because that's exactly what it is! So there's more proof that you're just as bad as the women you complain about and in some cases worst! So now that you know you're a no good, lying, cheating, gossiping sissy, do yourself a favour and treat those women with respect and dignity, it'll save you a lot of stress in the long run.

Don't you ladies think that you're escaping this, because as bad as men can be, honestly speaking I've witnessed women do far worst and stoop far lower. Dear women of this earth, tell me why would you think that you have to sell your bodies, deceive men, destroy young ones, seduce other women, destroy the homes of other women, etc just to get the attention of a man? It's saddening to see what the modern woman has become and on this International Women's Day, it's really shameful to see that after all the hype and talk about women on the move and the evolution of society, we've graduated to the very same level we were eons ago in the age of Sodom and Gomorrah. You're no better than the men whom you publicly denounced as unjust and prejudiced, no smarter than the men you labelled dummies and incompetent, no more progressive than the men you called archaic and obsolete. Most women especially feminist will deny these facts and label them as derogatory accusations but think about it, the very existence of feminists lends to my points. Feminists are women who exists for the soul purpose of promoting and endorsing the power of women, men have clubs, circles, lodges, etc that do the exact same thing. Just as with the paragraph about men, women you too are very guilty of meeting the perfect match for you, only for you to screw it up over some insanely frivolous reasons. More than men, you're superficial and very materialistic in most cases, your focus is almost always on what you can get versus what you can give. If that sounds familiar it's because you accuse men of doing. There's no point to complaining of the evil that men do and then turn around and do the exact same thing! That's not even an eye for an eye, that's stupidity to the highest. You complain that the perfect man doesn't exist and that is true because what makes a perfect man is different to every woman, but what happens when you do meet that man who meets your criteria and you discard him for the chase of another whom you think is the man of your dreams? That's right once again you're thinking like a man and don't even know it, look back in your life on how many of those "friends" who would give anything to be with you, the "friends" who saw you through good and bad and ensured that you always came first but were cast aside for reasons that you alone can justify. Can't find a perfect man after that? Well that was because you had him and let him leave so tough, you're still thinking like a man just in case you're not keeping track. So you don't understand men, here's a clue men don't understand you either so if nobody speaks then there's no understanding. Communication isn't a man problem only, it's a people problem and truth be told women are the majority of the guilty parties with that. So now that you know you're a lying, poor communicating, stubborn, jackass do yourself a favour and treat the men you meet with respect and dignity. Don't try to destroy them or abuse them and they won't have reason to do you the same.

When it comes to men versus women, there's no lesser of the two evils, there's no rock and hard place, there's only one species of human race that needs to remember who created us and why.
Better than that people
R2

Men vs Women

A long standing argument between the genders, is which gender is the simpler of the two to be. I asked a woman recently if she were given the opportunity to be a man if she would take it and why. She immediately said she would jump at such a chance, but only to see what men really think of women's feelings, what a man really wants from a woman and why men find it so difficult to understand what women really want.

Let's begin with the first question, what men really think of women's feelings, this is a slightly varied topic depending on the stage of the man so let's deal with the general information. Most men agree that women are largely fluctuate about their emotions. As far as men go women are as emotionally stable as a pirogue in the middle of the Bering Strait. Ladies as a man I must admit I also subscribe to that thinking because quite frankly there's no making up your mind. There's no sound decision over what mood you're in for as little as 2 minutes let alone an entire half hour! I have lots of female friends and it's the same issue with all of them, mood changes are as often as the shoes they supposedly "have to have." If a woman were to be a man for even a day, this would be the first most obvious thing she would see in other women what men see everyday. Ladies while we understand that you're emotional beings, that doesn't mean that you have full license, carte blanche to continually change your moods for the slightest adjustment in the day! The real stress for men is that most of the so called stressors are petty minded issues like "what some other chic said about you that you heard from a friend" or "what the woman from down the street was wearing that looked like one you have home." I have not met the man who can make sense over why women change moods more than underwear, so all we can do is play on them to our advantage as much as possible. It's far easier to learn to manipulate of a woman's emotions than attempt to comprehend the insane complexities how they work.

Now onto question 2, what a man really wants from a woman. Sadly this varies from man to man and is heavily dependent on the stage of life the man is at. Younger men are usually much more daring and unwilling to settle, they're hungry for new experiences and unless raised in a very strict traditional home where such cravings are forbidden by the elders. Younger men who crave such adventures are usually between the ages of 17 to 30, but something interesting happens at about the age of 23 and onwards, men start getting hintings of settling down with families. These hints all depend on the amount the man has experienced by that age and how much more he wants to experience. If women would take the time to find out about these experiences then that would give them a very clear indicator as to what that particular man wants from a woman. Now in addition to those experiences a woman must consider the financial standing of a man, the more the man has accomplished the more he wants to settle generally speaking. Settled men are easier to get along with as they're less demanding and much more focused on the woman than on their careers or attaining possessions. These men are however, much neater and much more mature in their thinking so a girl who parties alot is not inclined to tickle the fancy of such a man. There's also the education factor to consider, higher educated young men actually take longer to settle than men who are less formally educated but are less likely to commit infidelity in a relationship based on the level of their experiences.

As for the last question why men can't understand what women really want, well that stems from the woman not giving the impression that she knows what she really wants. Mixed signals and messages are a seeming must in order to be a woman. Men receive a myriad of messages from women on just a single topic and all at once so it's almost impossible to make sense of what the woman really wants. Most men do not even bother taking the time to understand these messages and as such come across as uncaring and inconsiderate of the needs of the woman but truth be told women are the sole cause of this misunderstanding. It is very rare to see a woman who is confident and sure of what she wants and even rarer to meet one who isn't below the age of 65. Like men, women go through various stages but the process is so much more complicated with women that they revert to previous stages in their lives whilst men can only go forward. Ladies if you want a man to know what you really want then I strongly suggest you start by knowing what you want first.

At the end of the day it comes down to communication between the opposite sexes. Men are notorious for their failing communication skills whilst women are infamous for indecision in communication. These two obstacles have long been the main hurdles to stable relationships and have led to infidelity, destruction, emotional distress, etc.

Better than that people

R2

Their Opinion vs Mine

Trusting god is something that we all too often do not truly understand the meaning of as human beings. I am of the solid belief that despite what we are taught, pride of the flesh simply gets in the way of us trusting god. As I grow older, I see more and more that it really comes down to personal faith that distracts me from truly trusting god's will. The lack of trust is to the point that even the very teachings I receive are considered untrustworthy and as a result I find myself questioning what is and what isn't. It is true that at the end of the day the word of man is subject to the interpretation of the flesh, but who am I to say where that contortion of the truth begins and ends? Psychology and religion teaches that an inability to trust comes from a lack of self trust, the theory states that he who does not trust himself will not and cannot trust others. I believe that there's truth in that as there have been times that i have found myself doubting situations based on my own reactions to similar situations and the decisions I have made. Having said that, there have also been numerous situations where I have doubted the results of a situation based on intuition and my suspicions were proven correct. In addition to those there have also been situations where my doubts were based on how I would've personally handled the given situation.

With all of these in mind, it may very well be proven that the religious leaders and psychologists may be correct in their theory. I however have a different opinion, I firmly believe that faith and belief in god and to a lesser extent man comes with an understanding of what god will do and not what I wouldn't do. That theory states that I can trust that what I would or wouldn't do does not reflect how others especially the almighty will reflect on me. It should be noted that my theory is based on the existing social concept that what I may do for others, others may not do for me. a concept most of us are very familiar with and may live by in certain situations. Despite what the experts and so called educated may say, I do not subscribe to the concept of karma nor any version of karma as it defies the logic of forgiveness. Karma is based on the old concept of eye for an eye and as I was taught by the very religious leaders who preach of karma's existence, the old ways of eye for an eye was abolished with the coming of Christ and the establishment of the new testament. So to you hypocritical bastards I say suck a dildo for attempting to confuse my mind and faith. If I go to hell for not trusting you corrupted and sickening excuses for leaders then so be it, while I do not wish to go to hell I'm very sure that I'll be seeing you there with me.

There is one thing that they said that will always stick with me as I do agree with it, "true knowledge is only available to those with blind understanding." That statement means that in order to truly understand what is and what isn't, you must wipe your mind clean of all that you have previously learnt and allow god to truly fill your mind and spirit with HIS knowledge and not that of man. No matter which religion or faith you belong to, they all identify with that statement because it is a fundamental truth of god that no man can ever corrupt. Even though different religious leaders use the statement as a sales pitch and not with the true intended purpose of guiding what they call lost souls. Sales pitch or not, I consider that a fundamental to unlocking true knowledge, who god uses to impart this true knowledge is where my issue currently resides. So if you're like me and you're unsure if your faith is where it should be at times, I can tell you this from my personal experience, faith in god sometimes involves doing things that you wouldn't normally do. It also involves doing things that you would normally do, but anything that god has you do will always work out for the benefit of you and that's a fact!

Better than that people
R2