The Good One

You've heard about them, the Mr. Right, Mrs. Right, Prince Charming, etc. but do you know that these people actually exist and there are times we get them and discard them like yesterday's garbage? How many times have you had someone who was pushing to see you do better, took the time to attend to your every need, considered you above there own well being, and the list goes on and yet still all you could think of was how nagging this person was and when they would leave? What about the many times you had that one person who would wait on you hand and foot despite all that you have done to them and you reward them with arrogance and stress? The truth of the matter is that at some point in time we are all guilty of such actions and whether you accept it or not, it's your fault that you're unhappy! Most people will agree that men more than women are guilty of such behaviour with the majority of victims being women.

To the men of the world, it's no secret that we all have varying needs and wants from women and there are times we are guilty of being as indecisive about love as we accuse the women we meet of doing. A good woman is defined differently by each man so I can't say there's any one kind of good woman, however, at a point in time in life we do meet that woman who meets our criteria and then we mess up by cheating, abusing, ignoring, contradicting and destroying them. If that isn't bad enough, we do them worst by imposing our "macho" will on them and when they leave we're most upset and quickest to point the finger of blame at them. That very finger that we point has a thumb that's pointing right back at us and it's nothing further from the truth. Every man would like to have that perfect body woman who does everything that we would like them to do to and for us, but just like us women come in all shapes and sizes and should be appreciated as they are. There's no point in complaining of how ridiculously petty women are and how much they gossip because you know what, men gossip just as bad and sometimes worst. You really think those nights out with the boys talking about who does what and who's with who isn't gossiping? Get real and get a life because that's exactly what it is! So there's more proof that you're just as bad as the women you complain about and in some cases worst! So now that you know you're a no good, lying, cheating, gossiping sissy, do yourself a favour and treat those women with respect and dignity, it'll save you a lot of stress in the long run.

Don't you ladies think that you're escaping this, because as bad as men can be, honestly speaking I've witnessed women do far worst and stoop far lower. Dear women of this earth, tell me why would you think that you have to sell your bodies, deceive men, destroy young ones, seduce other women, destroy the homes of other women, etc just to get the attention of a man? It's saddening to see what the modern woman has become and on this International Women's Day, it's really shameful to see that after all the hype and talk about women on the move and the evolution of society, we've graduated to the very same level we were eons ago in the age of Sodom and Gomorrah. You're no better than the men whom you publicly denounced as unjust and prejudiced, no smarter than the men you labelled dummies and incompetent, no more progressive than the men you called archaic and obsolete. Most women especially feminist will deny these facts and label them as derogatory accusations but think about it, the very existence of feminists lends to my points. Feminists are women who exists for the soul purpose of promoting and endorsing the power of women, men have clubs, circles, lodges, etc that do the exact same thing. Just as with the paragraph about men, women you too are very guilty of meeting the perfect match for you, only for you to screw it up over some insanely frivolous reasons. More than men, you're superficial and very materialistic in most cases, your focus is almost always on what you can get versus what you can give. If that sounds familiar it's because you accuse men of doing. There's no point to complaining of the evil that men do and then turn around and do the exact same thing! That's not even an eye for an eye, that's stupidity to the highest. You complain that the perfect man doesn't exist and that is true because what makes a perfect man is different to every woman, but what happens when you do meet that man who meets your criteria and you discard him for the chase of another whom you think is the man of your dreams? That's right once again you're thinking like a man and don't even know it, look back in your life on how many of those "friends" who would give anything to be with you, the "friends" who saw you through good and bad and ensured that you always came first but were cast aside for reasons that you alone can justify. Can't find a perfect man after that? Well that was because you had him and let him leave so tough, you're still thinking like a man just in case you're not keeping track. So you don't understand men, here's a clue men don't understand you either so if nobody speaks then there's no understanding. Communication isn't a man problem only, it's a people problem and truth be told women are the majority of the guilty parties with that. So now that you know you're a lying, poor communicating, stubborn, jackass do yourself a favour and treat the men you meet with respect and dignity. Don't try to destroy them or abuse them and they won't have reason to do you the same.

When it comes to men versus women, there's no lesser of the two evils, there's no rock and hard place, there's only one species of human race that needs to remember who created us and why.
Better than that people
R2

Men vs Women

A long standing argument between the genders, is which gender is the simpler of the two to be. I asked a woman recently if she were given the opportunity to be a man if she would take it and why. She immediately said she would jump at such a chance, but only to see what men really think of women's feelings, what a man really wants from a woman and why men find it so difficult to understand what women really want.

Let's begin with the first question, what men really think of women's feelings, this is a slightly varied topic depending on the stage of the man so let's deal with the general information. Most men agree that women are largely fluctuate about their emotions. As far as men go women are as emotionally stable as a pirogue in the middle of the Bering Strait. Ladies as a man I must admit I also subscribe to that thinking because quite frankly there's no making up your mind. There's no sound decision over what mood you're in for as little as 2 minutes let alone an entire half hour! I have lots of female friends and it's the same issue with all of them, mood changes are as often as the shoes they supposedly "have to have." If a woman were to be a man for even a day, this would be the first most obvious thing she would see in other women what men see everyday. Ladies while we understand that you're emotional beings, that doesn't mean that you have full license, carte blanche to continually change your moods for the slightest adjustment in the day! The real stress for men is that most of the so called stressors are petty minded issues like "what some other chic said about you that you heard from a friend" or "what the woman from down the street was wearing that looked like one you have home." I have not met the man who can make sense over why women change moods more than underwear, so all we can do is play on them to our advantage as much as possible. It's far easier to learn to manipulate of a woman's emotions than attempt to comprehend the insane complexities how they work.

Now onto question 2, what a man really wants from a woman. Sadly this varies from man to man and is heavily dependent on the stage of life the man is at. Younger men are usually much more daring and unwilling to settle, they're hungry for new experiences and unless raised in a very strict traditional home where such cravings are forbidden by the elders. Younger men who crave such adventures are usually between the ages of 17 to 30, but something interesting happens at about the age of 23 and onwards, men start getting hintings of settling down with families. These hints all depend on the amount the man has experienced by that age and how much more he wants to experience. If women would take the time to find out about these experiences then that would give them a very clear indicator as to what that particular man wants from a woman. Now in addition to those experiences a woman must consider the financial standing of a man, the more the man has accomplished the more he wants to settle generally speaking. Settled men are easier to get along with as they're less demanding and much more focused on the woman than on their careers or attaining possessions. These men are however, much neater and much more mature in their thinking so a girl who parties alot is not inclined to tickle the fancy of such a man. There's also the education factor to consider, higher educated young men actually take longer to settle than men who are less formally educated but are less likely to commit infidelity in a relationship based on the level of their experiences.

As for the last question why men can't understand what women really want, well that stems from the woman not giving the impression that she knows what she really wants. Mixed signals and messages are a seeming must in order to be a woman. Men receive a myriad of messages from women on just a single topic and all at once so it's almost impossible to make sense of what the woman really wants. Most men do not even bother taking the time to understand these messages and as such come across as uncaring and inconsiderate of the needs of the woman but truth be told women are the sole cause of this misunderstanding. It is very rare to see a woman who is confident and sure of what she wants and even rarer to meet one who isn't below the age of 65. Like men, women go through various stages but the process is so much more complicated with women that they revert to previous stages in their lives whilst men can only go forward. Ladies if you want a man to know what you really want then I strongly suggest you start by knowing what you want first.

At the end of the day it comes down to communication between the opposite sexes. Men are notorious for their failing communication skills whilst women are infamous for indecision in communication. These two obstacles have long been the main hurdles to stable relationships and have led to infidelity, destruction, emotional distress, etc.

Better than that people

R2